making connections

Life is about making connections with people. You make a person feel special in a way they don’t get from others, they will always like you and value your friendship. At least that's what I have found personally. If you make someone feel respected and worthy of your time and you are genuinely interested in them they will be attracted to you and want to pursue your friendship further. They will gravitate towards you because they get something from you they crave. Each of us know we want to be special and we want to make something of ourselves, but who really supports us and who really takes time to believe in us and our dreams, for a lot of people it is only themselves. That is why having someone who looks at your freshly, without bias or judgment but sees you as your own opportunity for success is so important. I also think this doesn't come naturally to most people to treat others this way, I think for the most part we really are taught to be the center of our own universe. So it does take effort and it can feel strange or even fake when you are trying to make this change to be sincere and interested, but the end result is so worth it. When you know you've helped change someone's day, their outlook or just find a piece of themselves they had forgotten about it will be significant and you'll know it. I hope we all have a person like that in our lives and if you don’t and you need someone please come see me and I will tell you all the wonderful things about yourself you hopefully already know.

The concept of pride is very interesting to me, it seems important to have pride or to take pride in yourself, your family  . . . .however pride can be the one thing keeping a person from asking for help when they desperately need it. It can tear friendships and relationships apart.  I have found in my own time, I’ve made some bad decisions to try and keep my image up, not wanting anyone to know about things I have done and I feel that at that time if I wasn't worried about my pride and about what people would think of me, the outcome would have been very different. I do find myself regretting my actions, but i can now see I was in my own way. I find that having too much pride to take necessary action happens more then not.  Pride sets our sites on ourselves; it leaves no room for helping others and much room for selfishness. Pride can be a silent killer, it can make people feel superior, and better then others. When you get in a place where you believe that, bad decisions are very easy to make because you believe there is a price to be paid for your pride and it's worth fighting for. But the truth, or my truth is we should not have pride, it's easy to say but not to accomplish.  Without pride we are free to laugh at ourselves, ask questions and admit defeat. We can relate to others from all different walks of life better, never thinking what we are doing is better or on a higher level then someone else, because of that we are more open, better listeners . . .there is just so much that comes with not having a sense of superiority.